When the Beatles were breaking up, and making their “warts and all” album sometimes known as “Get Back” or “Let it Be,” they found themselves at each others throats. The pressure of filming, creating, rehearsing, and telling each other what to do when they didn’t even want to have anything to do with each other, finally got to them. Finally, they moved, from the cavernous film studio they were being filmed in, to their own recording studio in their office building.
This brought them physically closer, which should have made things even more unbearable. But then, they did something they hadn’t really done before. They brought in a young, black, keyboard player named Billy Preston to fill in the parts where Paul couldn’t play both guitar and keyboard at the same time. And an amazing thing happened. They put on their best face and began to be on their best behavior.
The fact that an outsider could suddenly see them for who they were was important to them. Maybe it was a British thing about “washing your dirty linen in public,” but it worked, and it made each of them show the others the same respect they showed this young musician.
Now, I bring this up because for the last two Grand Lodge officer meetings, and, yes, we’re basically having two per month (refer to a previous post “Do You Want to Know a Secret?”), there have been District Deputies invited to dinner to discuss what is going on in their district and the lodges assigned to them.
All of a sudden we, the Grand Lodge officers, have an audience. And, not that we ever were rude or insufferable to each other, but it changed the dynamics. We could find out about certain lodges by those who should know them best, and we could talk openly about what we might view as good points, bad points, things to ponder or fix, advice to give, and more discussion.
The only time I ever really experienced this phenomena was when Bob Burdon, one of the “page two” guys came for dinner, and offered (OMG, he actually spoke to Grand Lodge officers) his opinion. And his outlook was right on, one of those slap-yourself-on-the-forehead kind of moments.
I think there’s lots of times we need to get the views of those who might otherwise be ignored. For the past three Saturdays, Jim, Gary, Don, and I have been at five different locations meeting with brothers who have ideas that the direction the Grand Lodge of Connecticut should go.
The idea is based on what the Grand Lodge of California did. They met throughout their state gathering and recording meetings. They condensed the meetings down to the basics, then created a survey, sent out to everyone, and posted on their website. All the answers were digested until a final strategic plan was developed. The funny thing was that the Grand Lodge officers looked at the plan to see if they wanted to change anything – and they didn’t change a thing!
So five locations, three hours each, fifteen hours total, often redundant, but enlightening just the same. And it was good to hear from many of the guys I know, the choir, the ones you find yourself preaching to, who know it better than you, but the real nice guys, too. It was real comfortable.
It was comfortable enough for someone to say, “Here’s a flaw in the system. Here’s where we’ve been missing the boat, and maybe something can be done about this.” And there have been lots of those kind of things, from investigations to NPDs – those guys who have been dropped from membership due to Non-Payment of Dues.
Jim has been saying, “Now, let me summarize what I’ve been hearing.”
I started to say that, too. At the last officer’s meeting when it came my time to comment, I stood and said, “Allow me to ramble. I’m sorry, I’m not comfortable without a glass in my hand, preferably Scotch.” For those assembled, it was an obvious allusion and impersonation of Jim, who likewise can’t sit and talk, and likes the assistance of the glass, and the Scotch, to develop his thoughts. It brought a good laugh. And it did the next night when I performed and gave my impression of Jim at the Past District Deputies dinner.
I wasn’t trying to make fun of him. I wasn’t trying to just reiterate the colloquialisms he uses; “blinding flash of the obvious,” “Adam’s house cat,” “yea, verily,” “between the dog and a fire hydrant.” I respect the man too much.
But it occurs to me that if you act like someone else, you might just develop the same thinking patterns, and I think Jim’s thinking patterns are right on. It came out on Saturday when I said, “What would you say about a man who joined a lodge and for the next 32 years visited his lodge no more than five times. Would you say he was a bad Mason?” A couple of brothers knew the story and giggled. Others thought. And finally they had to admit that if this Mason lived his life by the honorable precepts that he was taught, if he respected and followed the moral tenets, then despite his not attending his own lodge, he was a good Mason. This Mason is Jim McWain.
When I started the question, Jim jumped to his feet. I’d take the words right out of his mouth. He rambled over to the brother I had directed the question to. And when the brother answered that the man was a good Mason, Jim was there to pat him on the back, although the respondent didn’t know why.
Did the Billy Preston realize the Beatles were being who he expected them to be, or being who they thought he would expect them to be? Are our actions an act for others, or what we think others expect of us? Do we act the way we do out of a concerted effort to be who we think others expect, or who we actually are?
And if we are true to our beliefs, and if we can demonstrate those beliefs effortlessly to others, they may see how we think and develop similar patterns. If I “act” like Jim, it’s not for the laughter, but for the essence that I find myself in agreement with. It’s not an act, it’s a sharing of ideas. Try it some time. Try being some other guy you respect and share the same beliefs with. See what comes out of you when you do.